The most common thing that most people will experience after an unexpected
break up is the desperation to get their ex back. If this is you, you are
hurting and experiencing the pain the break up caused. You may feel like
getting back with your ex will make the pain go away.
Maybe, but hold that thought!
Before you start making out a plan of action, think about why you really
want to get your ex back and if it is the right move. This could be a kneejerk
reaction to your situation but it does not mean it is your best option. If you
are planning on getting your ex back make it for the right reasons.
Why do you want to get your ex
back?
What is it about your ex that makes them so desirable you want to get back
with them? This is a legitimate question that must be asked of your self. Just
being in love with them is not enough, there must be more to it. Be sure it is
the best thing for you.
What is it you really want?
Have you thought about what you want not only from a relationship but in
your life I general? You could have been making plans for the future together
with your ex but those plans can change. Does your planned future excite you?
How about your ex- does this person excite you?
Maybe you have been so busy planning the future for the two of you; your
own future plans may have been ignored. Take the time to sit down and decide
what you want in you’re your personal future before you start to get your ex
back to you.
Are you a good match together?
The last question you should ask can be the most difficult. Are the two of
you really a good match? Is life great when you are together and can you bring
out the best in each other? Or do you wish your ex was busy doing something
else so you have time to your self more often than not.
While these questions are not difficult to answer they are very important.
After reviewing your answers you feel your ex is the one for you then it is
time to plan on getting them back. Do some research to find the right tools to
help you be successful in your task.